To all Singles: The wait is definitly worth it

July 28, 2009 at 7:55 am (Love, Relationships)
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To be honest, I have a desire to have a male companion who will be able to care and love me, and that I can also do likewise to him. Wouldn’t it be great to have a shoulder to cry on when you’re sad, to have a listening ear to all your jubilant and sorrowful thoughts and most importantly, a companion? I believe this is just animal instinct to have the desire to love and to be loved.

Thus it is perfectly normal for any Singles out there to have the desire to be attached to someone of the opposite gender. But after much reflection and discussion with 2 married people of opposite genders, I decided against my irresistable desire to be attached.

Our lives are already that short. I believe that we need to spend more time with ourselves, friends and family before being committed into a relationship and having to take care and love someone else. If you can’t even love yourself, do you think you would be able to love someone else better? So spend your days understanding yourself, family and friends better! See more of the world and be enlightened and make yourself a better person before trying to help another person’s life!

Also, don’t jump the wagon. If a guy wants to be with you, think really wisely before you accept him. You don’t want to be in a state of regret for being with someone without truly loving them. There might always be someone else BETTER waiting for you in time to come, so why rush over a relationship now? Better to be single and enjoying your life now before you make a big regret of your life, and disappoint the people around you. Do not hasten to love; it will come to you when the time is right.

And if you are heart-broken that your boyfriend broke up with you, don’t be. In time to come, you would be truly appreciative of his action. He has made a terrible mistake of letting you go. He has made you available to other guys, enabling you to find an even better love partner! Your love deserves to go to someone worthier instead of the ungrateful man who does not realize how precious you are! Things happen for a reason. You will never be able to find the best man until you are single isn’t it?  

kelly0831

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Eternity love? Think again.

July 23, 2009 at 8:12 am (Love, Relationships)
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My male friend once claimed that there is no such thing as a couple being able to sustain their love for each other for eternity, resulting in them “falling out” of love for each other. My immediate response was to interrupt and to give a cry of outrage, to prove him wrong. But in a relaxed tone, he continued to say that this situation might happen in a marriage and that is is thus necessary that the couple remind themselves the purpose of their relationship, and try to restore the passionate relationship they once had.

Disappointing as this may sound, I will accept it. No matter how strong your love for each other might be at the start of the relationship, you will naturally get jaded of each other after a few decades. Having said that, do you Singles out there still long for a love one so badly? Frankly I think this news has made the idea of marriage less appealing. My belief in an eternity love has dissolved and I found it pointless to pursue a relationship or marriage.

However it was only then that  I finally understood the significance of a baby in a marriage. Not only does a child improve the prospect of your old-age, it strengthens your marriage. With a child, there may be more heated quarreling that will add more cracks to your marriage. But in general, the couple will find the marriage being more meaningful and exciting. Why do you think couples always want to try out something new with each other like going to America or going skiing together? It is always fun to try out a new adventure with each other. Likewise is the case with having a baby in their life. It adds more spice, compromise and love to their marriage! (:

A marriage might turn dull with time but it is crucial that you do new and novel activities with each other to keep the wheel going coloufully! :)

 

kelly0831

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Do you love yourself?

July 18, 2009 at 4:40 am (Beauty)
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Do you think you are beautiful or attractive?  Ask this question to anyone and most people will most probably say an unsure “yes” or “NO”. I think this question boils down to individual confidence.

Lately, someone asked me this question and i retorted “NO”. It was later when I reflected back on the inccident that I felt I should not have gave such a reply. In the past, I always fancied myself looking like a flawless and attractive lady with a  pair of  large innocent and attractive almond-looking eyes, a beautifully pointed chin and a perfect lips on a slender yet big bossom body. I think almost everyone would have once dreamed of looking like a supermodel. But will you look good only if you have a nice phsyique? Think about it- if you are feeling positive and confident, you’ll be smiling and that surely looks way better than a sour-faced person. It is also likely that you will not be hunching your back, making you look taller and smarter! You would also walk smartly and not sloppily!  Do you think a hunch-back and sulking man with a six-pack body look hunky? I think that looks awful. Your confidence level can be easily detected by others half a mile away! So be sure not to spoil your looks by feeling lousy or being in self-denial. Clothes and makeup will only get you that far. Confidence will get you everywhere.

We just ought to come to acceptance of our looks and learn to love ourselves. I was pondering over this issue lately. If you think you are ugly-looking now, what will you think of yourself ten years down the road when you age and there will be more lines on your face and more body fat on the tummy and hips? If you think you will look prettier down the road, I am happy for you that you are a very optimistic person. But in most situations, chances are that you will grow older looking less beautiful than a decade ago. Hence I feel that each of us are looking at our best right now and it only helps if you learn to love your body now or you never will in your lifetime.

And on a personal note- is it really that crucial to look attractive? Reports have shown that when it comes to marriages, the opposite gender are no longer as concerned over the appearence of their lover as before, when they were only interested for a short-term relationship. So should I say that you only need to be concerned over your looks if you are only looking for short-term relationships? haha..

I once stumbled onto this online article which says that people with plastic surgery are more likely to commit suicide. Lets think about it. If an individual is to do such a drastic action like plastic surgery, it shows how dissatisfied they are with their body. Thus they have an expectation that after the surgery, they will look significantly nicer and that their life will improve. Sadly, this is not the case. Improving your appearance does not neccessarily improve others’ opinion of you and the life around you may not change for the better! Thus when the individual’s life does not turn up that way, he is so disappointed that he commits suicide. I think this is saddening. So if you think that looks are all that important, think again. Looking pretty or handsome does not improve anything. It simply heightens your disappointment and you wil end up feeling more resentful than before.

Learn to love yourself, and be confident of who you are. And I’d be certain that you can shine above others. :)

kelly0831

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WordPress VS Blogger

July 17, 2009 at 3:44 am (Uncategorized)

woah. this is my first entry in this blog and in WordPress! I have been a Blogger user for the past 6-7 years of my life! It seems like WordPress is way better than Blogger in terms of the ease for me to post my entries in categories/ tags/ pages. I can create as many pages as i wish, with such complete ease! Some might not find this useful but for someone like me who is petty over the organisation of my stuff, this feature is very useful. (:

Such features are something which Blogger has been lacking for all these years.. :( But in my opinion, the downside of WordPress is the inability to find your own template. As a free-account user, you are unable to preview/edit the HTML code of the template and can only use what’s given to you.

However, you are entitled to edit the HTML code of your post entries- which is something that is amiss in Blogger. What’s so great about editing your HTML code of your entry? well this will allow you to change the font type or style of your entry even if it’s not provided by the site (i.e. WordPress). So long as the font that you are using is a standard font such as Comic De Sans instead of non-standard fonts such as the ones in www.dafont.com, your reader should be able to see your font!

In short, i think WordPress will be a very suitable site for Bloggers who prefer a greater control over the organisation of their post entries or pages, or for people who aspire to create a website with complete ease. On a side note, please note that Yahoo Geocities that was previously popular for making a free website, will be closing down their services in about a month time. 

Well, i guess this is quite a disappointing news since I always felt that Geocities is a good place for amteur website builders to explore and to gain the experience of knowing how to build a “real” website.  But then again, i guess the viewership of these Geocities site are so low that it is probably unprofitable to maintain as a web host for users.

Frankly, i think Geocities is no longer in such a big demand due to the rise of “mini websites” such as Blogger, WordPress,  Live Journal and etc. where anyone can own a site without a cost and most importantly without the need for prior knowledge on how to create a site!

 

kelly0831

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